Last week I met with a client who has smoked more than a pack of cigarettes a day for more than 40 years. As of a week and a half ago, he now considers himself a non smoker. He chose a date 2 weeks from our initial appointment as his quit date and we agreed to meet for 3 appointments unless he had any setbacks. He had a few limiting beliefs to begin with, which to me, spoke volumes.
Where had these limiting beliefs come from?
He had read and heard of different statistics which caused him to believe specific things about quitting that would influence his own drive while quitting. Things that he believed because some one else had written them as fact when they were entirely just a measurement according to their observation. No study was administered, just some person making a claim because of what worked for him or her. During hypnosis we worked on those limiting beliefs, but more than anything we could discuss about statistics or facts, he got a message. The message was from his deceased father.
Needless to say, when he did mess up, he did it miserably. Instead of understanding that having one smoke was a mistake, he continued to smoke with the belief that no matter what, he was a failure.
While this client was under hypnosis in his next session, it was suggested that he be visited by a presence and that this presence would have a message for him about his habit. For him, this presence was his deceased father and the message was “Do as I say,not as I do”, as his father had died from cancer and been a smoker all of his life. More profound than anything I could have come up with as the hypnotist, this client visited someone whom he loved and trusted and who he knew would give him words of wisdom for this journey.
Since that visit, the client has reported that cravings are fewer and further between one another and that he hasn’t made any mistakes since. He also reported that he now knows that a mistake is just a mistake and that he can change just by forgiving himself for the one incident and moving forward with his new life as a non smoker.
If you are interested in quitting smoking, or another habit you have had trouble breaking, please contact me and we can face your limiting beliefs together. Judgement free.