Recently, I have had an influx of clients looking for help with stress related to the death of a loved one. It occurred to me that with each of these client’s there was an underlying sense of guilt. Guilt about not noticing soon enough when their loved one had a life threatening issue, guilt about not being able to fix or control the outcome, and sometimes guilt about turning away when they no longer felt safe due to the condition of the sick individual. More than ever I recognized the need for self hypnosis in their treatment. It seemed as if they wouldn’t have ongoing success without it.
Don’t get me wrong, I teach self hypnosis to the majority of my clients, but in this instance, it was imperative. Unfortunately, at some point, they have taken on the responsibility of the death of their loved one and sometimes they get stuck here. I’ve seen several people come out of this pit of despair with the help of hypnosis among other treatments. The self hypnosis in particular helped them reach their continuing goals.
This past December I lost a young family member tragically and it was this technique (and yoga) that helped me get through the caring for my sister during her loss, trying to find forgiveness and understanding in the situation, and making final arrangements for my niece. While there were previously times in my life that I struggled with anxiety about going to the supermarket alone, with this technique, I faced a new city fearlessly, dealt with its laws and had my first experience planning final decisions for a life. All things that normally would’ve scared me into an anxiety attack. But at no point did my anxiety win, take over or bring me to a place where I couldn’t handle what was in front of me. I was grateful for this technique and wanted to share it with my readers.
Because I am aware of the need for self hypnosis in many cases, I thought I would post about it and share the technique here. Please feel free to practice at home, and if you still need help, reach out! I’d love to hear from you.
Self Hypnosis Step 1:
- Just before falling asleep each night give yourself the following suggestion 10 times:
“Everyday in every way, I get better and better.”
- While you are saying this count on each finger to make sure you do it 10 times.
- Visualize yourself in whatever way you would like to see yourself getting better and better each time you say it. Keep your visualizations positive in nature.
- It’s important to make sure you do this 10 times in a row without falling asleep.
(If bedtime simply won’t work for you, find a time of the day that you can do this technique at the same time each day and really focus on it.)
Hope this helps! Good luck.